The Force Behind Muhammad
The personality of Muhammad is an enigma to
many scholars. Even those who do not believe that he was a
messenger of God and can prove that his personal qualities and
deeds disqualify him for such lofty station, admit that he had
an extremely impressive and charismatic personality that was
able to influence people around him who believed in him and were
inspired or even mesmerized to the extent that they were ready
to kill for him and his promises.
What made Muhammad different? Was he a
genius or was he a monster? Was he a saint or was he a devil?
The believers’ opinion of Muhammad differs from his foes, yet
all agree that Muhammad was no ordinary person. What made
Muhammad different? How he was able to summon so much
determination, aspire so big, think so grandiose and become so
powerful in such a short time? What was the force behind him?
There is not a day that someone somewhere
does not proclaim himself to be a messenger of God and there are
no shortage of fools who believe in him. Who would go about
killing innocent people like in the case of the Japanese sect
the Supreme Truth or would commit mass suicides like in the case
of the American sect, the Heaven's Gate. What makes one make
such claim? Is it for money? Of course not! What these
charlatans want is respect, admiration and power. These people
are emotionally sick. They are narcissists. A narcissist is
someone who has a tremendous need for recognition. Narcissists
are stubborn, manipulative and crave for power. But they are
also intelligent, cunning and resourceful. The most famous
of the narcissists are: Changeez Khan, Napoleon, Hitler,
Stalin, Mussolini Polpot, Mao, Saddam Hussein and Idi Amin.
Narcissists are smart but they are emotionally disturbed.
They only see their validation in power and to achieve that they
stop at nothing. They lie very convincingly. They inspire
confidence and look absolutely self-assured. But all that is a
facade to hide their emotional insecurity and their inner fears.
This emotional disturbance occurs at
childhood. What the above dictators had in commons is a
difficult and a loveless childhood. In the case of Muhammad he
was born an orphan. In those days orphans did not have much
prestige and the awareness that he was an orphan must have left
on him its impact making him feel insecure and inferior. When
Muhammad was born he was given to a surrogate mother Thueiba who
nursed him for several months (Katib al Waquidi p. 20).
It is not clear why Amina, Muhammad's
biological mother, who was a widow and had no other children
would give away her only child to a surrogate mother and would
not take care of him herself. This was obviously a custom of the
Arabs but it makes no sense for a single mother to give away his
only child and prefer complete loneliness. customs are never
stronger than motherly instinct. If Amina had many children to
take care of, this would have made more sense. But Muhammad was
her only child and she was a widow. It is not understandable why
she would not take care of him and would give him to a Bedouin
to raise him. Did she really love Muhammad? Did she believe that
this child would reduce her chance of getting remarried? There
is very little information on Muhammad's mother for us to
understand her well. But one thing is clear and that is Muhammad
was very bitter towards her as we shall see ahead.
The baby Muhammad stayed in the care of
Thueiba for some times. The exact time is not known but it must
have been several months for Muhammad remembered to send gifts
to her when he came to wealth many decades later. But for some
reason Muhammad was taken from her and entrusted to Halima.
During the early months of a child's life the infant cannot
differentiate his own identity with that of his mother. In this
case Thueiba, as far as Muhammad was concerned, was his mother.
This change of "mother" from Thueiba to Halima must
have been a shock for the child. Today's psychologists
know about the adverse effect of such change on the emotional
well being of the child, but the ignorant Arabs at that time had
no clue about it.
Five years passed, Muhammad grew with
another family in the desert, visiting his biological mother
twice a year, being aware that he does not belong to that family
but not understanding the customs of the adults and wondering
why his own mother spurns him. This child grew feeling unloved
and demonstrated bizarre behavior that had his wet nurse and his
real mother wonder whether he was demon possessed.
W.M. Watt in his translation of Ibn Ishaq's
biography of Muhammad (p. 36) quotes the following strange story
told by Muhammad which makes one wonder of his state of mind.
"...two men in white clothes came to
me with a golden basin full of snow. They took me and split
open my body, then they took my heart and split it open and
took out from it a black clot which they flung away. Then they
washed my heart and my body with that snow until they made
The Prophet's mental condition was a matter
of concern since his childhood, which deeply disturbed his
wet nurse who returned him to his mother. Here is the story told
by Halima, related in Guillaume's translation of Ibn Ishaq, page
"His [Muhammad's friend's] father
said to me, "I am afraid that this child has had a
stroke, so take him back to his family before the result
appears. ..... She [Muhammad's mother] asked me what happened
and gave me no peace until I told her. When she asked if I
feared a demon had possessed him, I replied that I did."
It is normal for children to see monsters
under their beds, and have secret imaginary friends. but
Muhammad's case must have been exceptionally worrisome and
extremely weird to alarm his own mother and to bring up
the possibility of her son being possessed by demon. The fact
that his wet nurse also believed so is proof that he was
mentally unstable from the childhood.
For the primitive people all those who were
mentally sick were "demon possessed". Today most of
the cases of "demon possessions" are treated and
contained by medications. It is not illogical to think that if
Prozac was invented 1400 years ago, the world would have been
spared of Islam and millions of lives would have not been
sacrificed at the Altar of Allah.
Then again Muhammad is separated from the
only family that he knew and at five is returned to his real
mother. As soon as he starts to get used to her, she also
abandons him and dies. Muhammad never forgave his mother for
giving him away when he was an infant and for leaving him alone
when he still needed her affection.
It is also possible that his bitterness towards his mother was
because he never felt being loved by her.
On his pilgrimage from Medina to Hodeibia,
after he conquered the Mecca he visited his mother's tomb, and
lifted up his voice and wept. His followers likewise wept around
turn. They asked him concerning it, and he said, ---- "This
is the grave of my mother: the Lord hath permitted me to visit
it. And I sought leave to pray for her, but it was not granted.
So I called my mother to remembrance, and the tender memory of
her overcame me, and I wept [Katib Al Waquidi p. 21].
Why should God not allow Muhammad to pray
for his mother? Obviously this man could not forgive his mother
even half a century after her death. He had deep emotional
wounds that were never healed.
After Amina's death Muhammad went to the
care of his grandfather Abdul Muttalib, who bestows all his love
to him as he was the only remnant of his deceased son Abdullah.
But again two years later, the cruel fate played another nasty
game and Abdul Muthlib was also snatched by death.
The orphan child felt bitterly the loss of
his loving grandfather; as he followed the bier to the cemetery
of Hajun, he was seen to weep; and when he grew up, he retained
a distinct remembrance of his death.
Muhammad was entrusted to the care of his
not so wealthy uncle Abu Talib. Abu Talib faithfully discharged
the trust. "His fondness for the lad equaled that of
Abdul Muttalib." writes Moir "He made him sleep by his
bed, eat by his side, and go with him whenever he walked abroad.
And this tender treatment he continued until Mahornet emerged
from the helplessness of Childhood."
This degree of attachment to his uncle is a
clue to us that Muhammad was in constant fear of losing his
loved ones and being left alone once again. This boy received
several devastating blows at his childhood. He was an emotional
wreck. This becomes evident from an incident recorded from him
when he was 12 years old. At that time Abu Talib decided to go
to Syria for a business trip. He intended to leave the
child behind. "But when the caravan was ready to depart,
and Abu Talib about to mount his camel, his nephew, overcome by
the prospect of so long a separation, clung to his protector.
Abu Talib was moved, and carried the boy along with him." (Muirp.
Muhammad recalls with tenderness his own
loneliness and his days of being an orphan. In Surah 93:6
"Did He not find thee an orphan and give thee shelter (and
The emotional state of Muhammad is a
fascinating subject that I am going to cover in my upcoming
book. But suffice to say that narcissists are extremely
successful people. They have a tremendous drive to achieve power
as they search to satiate their thirst for loneliness and lack
of love, with power, domination and recognition.
Dr. Sam Vaknin a psychologist and an expert
in narcissism writes:
The narcissist is a master of disguise. He
is a charmer, a talented actor, a magician and a director of
both himself and his milieu. It is very difficult to expose him
as such in the first encounter. But here are a few signs:
- displays haughty behaviour
- has a tendency to humiliate, criticize and belittle others
- has a tendency to exaggerate, small, unnecessary lies
- has a tendency to fantasize about unlimited success
- brags incessantly, to ignore you, not to listen
- has a tendency to idealize you much beyond the call of
- makes promises which are incommensurate either with the
event, or with his
- ability to fulfill them
- has haughty body language
In my book I will go in detail
demonstrating the presence of all these behaviors in Muhammad
based on what is recorded of him in the Hadith and Sirat Rasul.
There are more evidences that point to the fact that the Prophet
was a narcissist. For example his devotion to Khadijah and his
inability to love another woman in the same way and the fact
that he in his advance age sought to fill her gap with sex
sleeping with so many young women, never being faithful to
anyone of them is another trail of his insecurity and inner
Of course it is simplistic to believe that
all those who rise and claim to be prophets do so for money.
That is not the case at all. Money is just a by product. They do
it for power, for recognition, for respect, for domination.
These people are sick and they need respect and attention and
only by presenting themselves as the ambassadors of great
causes, they can get their narcissistic supplies from those who
believe in them. The cause is not really important. It is an
excuse, a tool of domination. For Stalin the excuse was
communism, for Mussolini it was fascism, for Hitler Social
Nationalism and for Muhammad it was religion and monotheism. The
more they glorify these gods, the more they get the power for
themselves, for they are the only representatives of their gods
Again as Vaknin comments: "Narcissists
use anything they can lay their hands on in the pursuit of
narcissistic supply. If God, creed, church, faith,
institutionalized religion can provide them with narcissistic
supply, they will become devout. They will abandon religion if
A good example of that is the televangelist Jimmy Swagart who
with his charismatic personality and theatrics would rouse
hundreds of thousands of people moving them to tears talking to
them about God and morality but in reality had thoughts of kinky
sex with prostitutes.
Allah was just a mean for Muhammad to
influence people and get his narcissistic supply. Allah
was Muhammad's alter ego. He could wield control over everyone's
life and death by telling them presenting himself the only
intermediary between God and the people. He could impose his
whims on them putting in the mouth of God. Narcissists do not
promote themselves directly. They know that this would not be
accepted by others. They are clever and manipulative.
Instead of promoting themselves they hide behind, imaginary
gods, ideologies, causes or religions while presenting
themselves as the messengers of these gods, the only authority
that can take them to the promised land the only one who can
make their dreams come true.
Dr. Vaknin explains: “ Everyone is a
narcissist, to varying degrees. Narcissism is a healthy
phenomenon. It helps survival. The difference between healthy
and pathological narcissism is, indeed, in measure. Pathological
narcissism and its extreme form, NPD (Narcissistic Pathological
Disorder), is characterized by extreme lack of empathy. The
narcissist regards and treats other people as objects to be
exploited. He uses them to obtain narcissistic supply. He
believes that he is entitled to special treatment because he
harbours these grandiose fantasies about himself. The narcissist
is NOT self-aware. His cognition and emotions are distorted.”
The above perfectly describes Muhammad.
Muhammad was a ruthless man with no human feelings. At first he
molded his religion to appease the Jews and attract them, but
when he realized that they are not going to accept him and would
not become tools in his dreams of domination he eliminated all
of them. He massacred all the men of Banu Quraiza and of Kheibar
and banished every other Jew and Christian from Arabia. Surely
if God wanted to destroy these people he needed not the help of
So I found there was no reason to be angry
of an emotionally sick man who is dead long time ago. Muhammad
was a victim himself of the stupid culture of his people, of the
ignorance of his mother who instead of keeping him in the first
years of his life when he needed her love most, entrusted him to
a Bedouin woman to raise him.
Muhammad was a man with profound emotional
scars. Dr. Vaknin says that a narcissist " lies to
himself and to others, projecting "untouchability",
emotional immunity and invincibility... For a narcissist
"everything is bigger than life. If he is polite, then he
is aggressively so. His promises outlandish, his criticism
violent and ominous, his generosity inane." Isn't
this the image the Prophet projected of himself?
Narcissists are insane but not dements.
They are very much aware of the hurt that they cause and they
enjoy the sensation of power. They are responsible for their
actions. So if there is a hell as Muhammad described, he must be
in the lowest pit of it and unlike what you believe he is not
laughing his head off.