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Intelligent lad
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 Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2008 4:28 pm Post subject: Vows by Husband and wife |
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Vows by the Husband
1. I will consider my wife to be the better half. I will look after her just as I look after myself
2. Accepting her as in-charge of the home, I shall plan things in consultation with her.
3. I will never express dissatisfaction about any shortcomings in my wife. If there are any, I will explain them to her lovingly. I will support her in overcoming them.
4. I will always have faith in my wife. I will never look at another woman with wrong intent, nor have an illicit relationship.
5. I will be affectionate and treat my wife like a friend.
6. I will bring home all my income to my wife. The household expenses will be incurred with her consent. I will always make an effort to ensure her comfort and happiness.
7. I will not find fault or criticize my wife before others. We will sort out our differences and mistakes in privacy by ourselves.
8. I will have a courteous and tolerant attitude towards my wife. I will always follow a compromising policy.
9. If my wife is unwell, or is unable to fulfill some responsibility, or through some misunderstanding behaves wrongly, I will not withdraw support or refuse to fulfill my responsibilities towards her.
10. I will always do my best to encourage my wife to find self-fulfillment. I will always behave in a kind and loving manner towards her.
Vows by the Wife
1. I will merge my personality with that of my husband, and truly become the better half. We will begin a new life together.
2. I will always treat my husband’s relatives with courtesy, respect and generosity, and spare no efforts to keep them happy and content.
3. I will work hard to perform the household work and support my husband. I will never be lazy.
4. With complete faith in my husband, I will live just as he desires. I will always be faithful to him
5. I will always speak pleasantly, be service-minded, and have an attitude of contentment. I will never sulk, grumble or be jealous.
6. I will be frugal in running my home, and will avoid wastefulness.
7. I will never be indifferent towards my husband and will treat him like God. I will never insult or abandon him
8. If there are any differences with my husband, I will resolve them peacefully and never present them in a derogatory manner.
9. I will always keep my husband content with humility and service.
10. Even if my husband is indifferent towards me, without any consideration I will faithfully fulfill my responsibilities.
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Chewchy
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While there are some commendable things there, how come I (as wife) would have to do all the household crap? LOL AND why do I have to merge my personality with my hubby?
One of my favorite things about being married was doing all this stuff together... cooking, cleaning up afterwards, etc. OK, I have to admit that I did the majority of laundry but I'm picky about how it's done 
One would think that the person who married you would actually like your separateness and differences - not want you to change the person they grew to love. |
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Rat_bytes
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So basically the man has all the power and gets to change aspects of the wife that he doesn't like, and the wife has to shut up and "merge her personality" even if he isn't paying any attention to her anymore? This is just mysogynistic baloney written in cutesy flowery language. It may appeal to women who watch romcom crap and don't read between the lines, but to me this just sounds like condescending effluent. I could have written something smarter and less sexist by taking my scrotum and mashing it into the freaking keyboard.
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Chewchy
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| Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2008 5:26 pm Post subject: |
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| Rat_bytes wrote: |
| So basically the man has all the power and gets to change aspects of the wife that he doesn't like, and the wife has to shut up and "merge her personality" even if he isn't paying any attention to her anymore? This is just mysogynistic baloney written in cutesy flowery language. It may appeal to women who watch romcom crap and don't read between the lines, but to me this just sounds like condescending effluent. I could have written something smarter and less sexist by taking my scrotum and mashing it into the freaking keyboard. |
DING DING DING!! the award goes to Rat Bytes! Yep, you got it. |
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Intelligent lad
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 I didn't expect such a reaction.
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too many feminists   . Chewy I thought you were a man. 
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Rat_bytes
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I didn't expect such a reaction.
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too many feminists . Chewy I thought you were a man. |
Consider what it would be like if the vows were reversed. They do not promote equality, do they? There is no balance, It's just thinly veiled misogyny, like I said.
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Chewchy
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| Intelligent lad wrote: |
I didn't expect such a reaction.
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too many feminists . Chewy I thought you were a man. |
Intelligent Lad, I'm most definitely not a man... at least last time I checked 
What I would prefer in this is that the "rules" for both men and women were the same. I had a very successful marriage and we were equals - no we did not have the same skills and gifts but we helped each other in everything and had a great time. 20 years of marriage and the only reason that I'm not still married is because he passed away - too young and very sad :( |
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IandonlyI
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| Posted: Sun Dec 21, 2008 5:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Chewchy wrote: |
While there are some commendable things there, how come I (as wife) would have to do all the household crap? LOL AND why do I have to merge my personality with my hubby?
One of my favorite things about being married was doing all this stuff together... cooking, cleaning up afterwards, etc. OK, I have to admit that I did the majority of laundry but I'm picky about how it's done One would think that the person who married you would actually like your separateness and differences - not want you to change the person they grew to love. |
You are right chewchy, and you have become true American. Just like you said about the laundry, I would do such a bad job at cooking and cleaning too that you would become picky about it too. 
I will most likely not cook and buy from outside everyday so wives for saving money will take that up on to their own.
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Chewchy
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| Posted: Sun Dec 21, 2008 7:59 pm Post subject: |
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| IandonlyI wrote: |
| Chewchy wrote: |
While there are some commendable things there, how come I (as wife) would have to do all the household crap? LOL AND why do I have to merge my personality with my hubby?
One of my favorite things about being married was doing all this stuff together... cooking, cleaning up afterwards, etc. OK, I have to admit that I did the majority of laundry but I'm picky about how it's done One would think that the person who married you would actually like your separateness and differences - not want you to change the person they grew to love. |
You are right chewchy, and you have become true American. Just like you said about the laundry, I would do such a bad job at cooking and cleaning too that you would become picky about it too.
I will most likely not cook and buy from outside everyday so wives for saving money will take that up on to their own. |
You little devil, you'd do badly so the wife would pick up the slack LOL It is an ingenious plan though
If I care more about a certain thing than I would be the one who would have to do it and husband the same way. It worked out great in my home and there were no problems ever in regards to who did what and anyone feeling overly put upon or working harder than the other.
That's not to say that many people don't have problems - they do. I do not consider myself a feminist in the Western sense though and my things to do tended to run along the tranditional rolls for women. The difference was that my husband was happy to help me in any way as a I was happy to help him.
He is very much missed. |
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ixolite
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Sexist and mysogynistic crap. 
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Yuyutsu
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| Intelligent lad wrote: |
I didn't expect such a reaction.
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You saw the glass half full.... |
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DSingh
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I was reading through it and the flowery language got to me till I read on further and reached the wife part...big LOL there, the flowery language really is a sugar coating on a poison pill  Having the poor wife stationed at home all the time, you may as well send her to a multiroomed prison area
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