Muslim men - cheats or are they allowed to do it?

Charlie Brown · Joined: 19 Oct 2008 Posts: 13 Location: London

I was in a relationship with a Muslim Man for 3 years. When I met him he was separated and (I know it is bad) - I kept seeing him when she took him back. I had low self esteem and he told me he loved me and we would be together. In hindsight I can see he has been lying about everything he said and everything he told me about himself. This ended 3 months ago. Last week he emailed me and said "I still love you...convert to Islam tomorrow and I'll marry you on the spot". I would love to know why he feels no guilt and why he still won't admit he lied. Is this permissible in Islam? (I am Christian and would never convert). Honestly, I knew nothing about Islam until we broke up and I came across this site. Thanks

Chewchy · Joined: 02 Feb 2008 Posts: 1774

Ex-muslimah · Joined: 19 Jul 2006 Posts: 909 Location: Scotland somewhere

I agree with the above.....if you want to have a life, don't convert and cut off all contact with him. You'll be glad you said no!

If you did convert to islam and get married, you'd be treated as a slave and second rate, in fact your pretty certain to be destined to hell!
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OLLOH · Joined: 04 Dec 2008 Posts: 5

there are a lot of good men out there for you, stay away from this one or anybody like him

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Charlie Brown · Joined: 19 Oct 2008 Posts: 13 Location: London

to all of you that took some time to reply x

sword_of_truth · Joined: 12 Oct 2008 Posts: 255

Muslims are not allowed to cheat on their wives in the common interpretation of Islam used by everyday muslims. They are allowed to cheat on their wives with slaves or captives of war. This was shown in the "Does Islam allow rape?" thread.

So, I guess the answer is no, muslims are not allowed to cheat these days, since they typically don't keep slaves.

You have to find out what kind of muslim the guy is. Certain crazy muslims can justify any sex with unbelievers.

I mean, if they want, they can declare war on your country, take you as a captive, and rape you, based on the hadith. Of course, no normal muslim would do that, but I could see a mentally ill one pulling it off and telling himself it was permitted.

misswhisp · Joined: 22 Oct 2006 Posts: 356

cheating on your spouse is adultery, and that is one of the 10 commandments, thou shalt not, as islam, judaism and christianity share the same 10 commandments , then , he was not allowed to do it

Ram · Joined: 27 Apr 2004 Posts: 1502

Ram · Joined: 27 Apr 2004 Posts: 1502

misswhisp · Joined: 22 Oct 2006 Posts: 356

Thou shalt not commit adultery is one of the 10 comandments shared by the 3 abrahamic religions.....so....if he has sex outside marriage he is guilty of it...