The Reality of Friendship in Islam
Submitted by Saleem Smith on Sat, 08/08/2009 - 07:43
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By Saleem Smith
To begin this article it is appropriate to quote directly from the Quran:
009.023 YUSUFALI: O ye who believe! take not for protectors your fathers and your brothers if they love infidelity above Faith: if any of you do so, they do wrong.
PICKTHAL: O ye who believe! Choose not your fathers nor your brethren for friends if they take pleasure in disbelief rather than faith. Whoso of you taketh them for friends, such are wrong-doers.
SHAKIR: O you who believe! do not take your fathers and your brothers for guardians if they love unbelief more than belief; and whoever of you takes them for a guardian, these it is that are the unjust.
Granted, this verse does not pertain to friendship. It pertains to one’s own family members. Can a person imagine a statement, a commandment, more perverse than these words spoken by the Islamic prophet Muhammad? Let’s consider this verse and its meaning for a moment before moving on the topic of friendship in Islam.
In Verse 009.023 of the Quran, Muhammad is claiming that god has commanded him to inform “the Muslims” that they must put Islam ahead of their own family in importance. In other words, Muhammad has said that Muslims should virtually disown their own family members should they simply choose not to remain Muslim. At minimum the family member is to be heartlessly ostracized.
Can you imagine being a Muslim parent or child and having to obey this verse should the reality arise within your own family? This tragic situation has arisen within millions of Muslims families throughout the centuries, and millions have been killed by their own families due to Islamic apostacy laws. Such is the sickening legacy of the Islamic prophet Muhammad.
Let us now consider friendship in Muhammad’s Islam:
First let us consider the reality of friendship amongst Muslims themselves. This topic concerned me greatly when I was a Muslim. For inside I knew the answers to the questions I was asking myself – and the truth was deeply disturbing. Some of the questions I asked myself were as follows:
If I were to leave Islam would my Muslim friends have to dump ME?
Does this mean that if one of my Muslim friends chose to leave Islam that I would have to dump THEM?
The answers to these fundamental questions helped open the door for me and leave Muhammad’s Islam. This and other “Islamic realities” led me to a critical study of Islam that helped free me from its perverse falsehood.
Obviously real friendship is profound and is to be highly respected and cherished. Many know how important friendship is to human health, happiness and our general development as individuals. Tragically, there can be no genuine friendship in Islam. Many Muslims still do not understand this basic fact. Let me explain why.
Muslim-to-Muslim friendship is contingent upon adherence to Islam. In other words, if a Muslim simply chooses to leave Islam for his own reasons his Muslim friends are obliged to consider him a traitor to the Muslim Umma, an enemy of god, and a worthless failure. And, of course, an Apostate that should be killed:
Bukhari:
Narrated 'Ikrima:
Some Zanadiqa (atheists) were brought to ‘Ali and he burnt them. The news of this event, reached Ibn ‘Abbas who said, “If I had been in his place, I would not have burnt them, as Allah’s Apostle forbade it, saying, ‘Do not punish anybody with Allah’s punishment (fire).’ I would have killed them according to the statement of Allah’s Apostle, ‘Whoever changed his Islamic religion, then kill him.’”
Now let us look to Islam’s “holy book,” the Quran, and see what it has to say regarding friendship:
003.028 YUSUFALI: Let not the believers Take for friends or helpers Unbelievers rather than believers: if any do that, in nothing will there be help from Allah: except by way of precaution, that ye may Guard yourselves from them. But Allah cautions you (To remember) Himself; for the final goal is to Allah.
005.051 YUSUFALI: O ye who believe! take not the Jews and the Christians for your friends and protectors: They are but friends and protectors to each other. And he amongst you that turns to them (for friendship) is of them. Verily Allah guideth not a people unjust.
005.080 YUSUFALI: Thou seest many of them turning in friendship to the Unbelievers. Evil indeed are (the works) which their souls have sent forward before them (with the result), that Allah’s wrath is on them, and in torment will they abide.
058.014 YUSUFALI: Turnest thou not thy attention to those who turn (in friendship) to such as have the Wrath of Allah upon them? They are neither of you nor of them, and they swear to falsehood knowingly.
060.013 YUSUFALI: O ye who believe! Turn not (for friendship) to people on whom is the Wrath of Allah, of the Hereafter they are already in despair, just as the Unbelievers are in despair about those (buried) in graves.
In closing, Islam’s treatment of friendship is obviously severely perverse. Upon close inspection, Islam is the obvious fraud of a very, very deranged con man.
Saleem Smith is a Canadian Ex-Muslim. He has his own site in which he expresses his views on Islam and other issues. Here is a link to his site: http://www.considerationsofacanadianex-muslim.org
Here is an example of muslim
Here is an example of muslim friendship.
A friend of mine(white educated guy-teacher)married a muslim woman. She immediately tried to get him to convert to islam. He stopped drinking,smoking.going out with his friends and at her request became vegetarian. He also fasted with her at Rammandam. However he refused to go the whole way and do the 5 a day prayers and was not happy with this. This caused a big problem in the relationship. This woman has 5 brothers. One night my friend was woken up in the small hours by her brothers entering the house and kicking him out onto the street in his nightclothes. He had to seek help from his father and could not get back to his house.
When he finally returned to collect his stuff(the marriage was now over)the brothers threatened to kill him and shoot his friend. This happend recently in Birmingham UK.
Had it been in a muslim country I doubt whether my friend would be alive to tell the tale.
Moral of this story is Muslims are liars and savages. They do not honour their marriage partners and are happy to destroy relationships for allah and kill arbitarily. Be warned.
VIV, first time i am hearing
VIV, first time i am hearing this , "vegetarian Muslim". These animals don't have any feeling for other living beings. Are you sure, that Muslim woman asked your friend to become a vegetarian?.
Viv: I can assure you that
Viv:
I can assure you that that sort of thing is NOT an isolated case. Although, more often the demand to convert is a pre-condition of marriage, esp if female is moslem.
Arp:
I'm guessing that the chap didn't want to eat Halal meat (I won't either) and so had to eat only vegetables.
Let's hope he ate hamburgers and BLT's "on the side"!
I've always believed that, in a relationship, you shouldn't ask your partner to do something that you wouldn't be prepared to do for them.
This doesn't work with Islam , their attitude (as well I know) is "be reasonable and do want I want". But let's also remember, not ALL Moslems are like this.
However, I have come to the opinion that no non-muslim should EVER enter into a 'relationship' with a Moslem, it's just stacking the odds to far against success.
viv, actually in a muslim
viv, actually in a muslim country the woman would have had some violence against her because this type of marriage is not allowed.
And even when there might be an open minded muslim involved in a relationship like this - there is always 'sudden jihad syndrome' that could take place in one of her male relatives. And with marriages, there are always problems and the woman will usually go and complain to the family which might make it easier for 'sudden jihad syndrome' to appear. You know, the 'blame it on allah for their (poor) behavrior' to keep their (so called) honor.
"She immediately tried to get
"She immediately tried to get him to convert to islam. He stopped drinking,smoking.going out with his friends and at her request became vegetarian."
Wait..wait... drinking and going out with kafir friends are forbidden in islam, but smoking and vegetarian???? In my country smoking is makrooh and muslim are not vegetarian.
"This happend recently in Birmingham UK."
Ah, UK (United Khalipates). I think the big mouths like kebirilewd and londonspiritous should response to this.
R_Not: Good point about SJS
R_Not:
Good point about SJS (Sudden Jihad Syndrome), but you omitted a fact:
It can effect women too.
Again I know of one very Westernised muslim woman who 'married out' of Islam, then had a sudden conversion/relapse? into Taliban supporting Al-Quaeeda sympathising Islam.
Inevitable result, one wrecked marriage, 'islamised' children, one devastated (former) husband who ended up with mental problems from what she did to him.
in india.....when a muslim
in india.....when a muslim girl married a hindu boy.....girls family objected to this and was insisting the guy to convert.....the guy refused to convert.....and that family killed both of them after 2 years of thier marriage.....u will find many such examples in india....though not all muslim familys are like that....i have seen hindu-muslim marriages work......but the uneduacted section is too much dependent on the Quran.....realisation of truth and education is important for any religion to survive.......ironicaly the uneducated will send his child to a madrassa but not to school.....