are a Muslim-woman. You
are a loving daughter of your poor village-parents, loving doll
of your brothers/sisters. Without
much formal education, you are thorough in your devotion to
Allah/Prophet (SA)/Qur’aan, in your Namaz, Roja, Zakat, and
other Islami rituals. Though
unsung and unlamented, you continuously work hard for your home
and loving kids. Your husband is an average guy. He works hard
for the family and in last 10/15 years made some properties
also. You are happy, content.
then the thunder brakes down on your head, for no fault of
silly reason, your husband gets upset with you and utters
“Talaq” three times in a row. And he gets stunned. He did
not really mean to divorce you, and realizes his blunder
immediately. But the neighbours overhear his utterance and reach
it to the Chairman of the Union Porishod. The Chairman feels it
necessary to observe the Islamic Law. He declares that you are
divorced. You will have to leave the house after the Iddat,
“hijab” to your “ex”-husband, the same person whom you
gifted kids and shared bed/life with.
Imam does not quite agree with the finality of the divorce
because the utterances were done all at one time.
He brings Maolana Wahiduddin’s
“Woman in Islamic Shariah” and shows from page 109
that according to a hadis of Abu Daud ( Sahi Sitta), the prophet
(SA) took three
utterances at one time as one utterance. He also shows from page
51 of Md Sharif Chaudhry’s “Women’s Rights in Islam”
that a hadis of Nisai ( Sahi Sitta) records the Prophet (SA) got
extremely angry with a case like this and
said “ Are you playing with the Book of Almighty and
Glorious Allah while I am ( still) amongst you”?
The same he shows again in page 127 in the Bangla
translation of the Qur’aan by Maolana
Muhiuddin Khan. (This
book he bought from a bookshop by cash money though at the
bottom of the 2nd page it is written that this is
only for free distribution from the Saudi King, and not for
sale). But the Imam
was defeated. The Chairman showed from the page 110 of the same
book of Maolana Wahiduddin that latter Khalifa Omar (RA)
validated the divorce with three utterances at one time, though
he used to whip the husbands for this ‘crime’ against the
you are divorced now. What
is your fault? You
open the Qur’aan and read the divine instruction from Sura Al-Bakara
if he divorces her ( for a third time) then she shall not be
lawful to him until
she weds another husband; and
if he (also) divorces her, then
there shall be no sin on either of them if they return to
each other………..” ( translated by molla,- please double
check for “distortion”. )
now you must marry somebody else and then get divorced by him to
be re-united with your home, your kids and husband! You stand
like a statue of stone. Your husband stands like a statue of
stone, speechless, like a helpless orphan in front an extremely
powerful religious system.
There is a chance of repentance and hope of pardon from
Allah for heinous crimes like killing, rape, theft or robbery.
But there is no chance for you or your husband for his
simple slip of tongue. Allah
knows, he did not mean to divorce you.
The whole village stood speechless.
never even thought of “marrying” anybody else. You feel
shocked, humiliated, finished.
But there is no room for feeling in a law.
With ocean of tears you and your husband agree to the
comes up. He is an honest guy.
He agrees to marry and then divorce you, plans in his
mind not to touch you, to keep your physical chastity.
no! It was not that easy! There the Chairman opens the details
of Islami Sharia. He reads it to others:-
No#2536. ………She becomes haraam for him after the third
divorce. But if she marries another man after the third divorce,
she becomes halal for the first husband on fulfillment of five
conditions, that is, only then he can remarry her:
marriage with the second person should have been of
permanent nature. If he contracts wither a temporary
marriage for one month or a year, and then separates from
her, the first husband can not marry her.
second husband should have had sexual intercourse with her,
and the obligatory precaution is that the sexual intercourse
should have taken place in a normal way.
second husband divorces her, or dies.
waiting period (iddah)
of divorce or iddah of death of the second husband should
have come to an end.
the basis of obligatory precaution the second husband should
have been Baligh (means adult - fatemolla) at the time of
says:- how come
means non-adult…………Oh! Forget it!)
husband in a broken voice raises the point that the Sharia Book
is written by Ayatullah al Uzama Syed Ali al-Husaini Seestani,
the top legal authority of 200 plus million Shias, and may not
be applicable to you because you are Sunni. Poor man takes a
last desperate chance to save you from taking your cloths off to
another man, “legally”.
The Imam again opens the Bangla-Qur’aan and reads the
Tafseer from page 126:- “ The condition of their re-marriage
is, the wife will marry somebody else after the Iddat. And if
for any reason the second husband divorces her after the sexual
relation , or he dies, then she can re-marry the first husband
after the Iddat.” (translated
by molla, please double check!).
Then somebody brings “Moksudul Momeneen” by Alhaz
Md. Lutful Alam, and reads from page 231:-
“ The foremost condition of HILA ( the second marriage)
is a definite sexual intercourse with the second husband. HILA
must be according to Sharia like a common marriage. There must
not be any condition of divorce or anything else. There must not
be a divorce from the second husband by force.
He will divorce according to his will. There is nothing
to do if he does not divorce”.
Are you listening?
Are you hearing anything, seeing anything? Are you trying
to say something? You seem to be deaf, dumb and blind.
You always believed in Keyamat.
Keyamat is here, now, for you. A hundred times you have
read the Qur’aan with total devotion,
4:79 “ Whatever good befalls you it is from God and
whatever evil befalls you it is from yourself…..”.
So you restlessly look for your fault in heaven and
earth. You do not see any. Now you have to perform the same acts
in the kitchen and in the bed you did with your loving husband.
You feel a knife on your throat. Your husband feels a knife on
his throat. Your children are shaking like animals in front of
slaughterhouse. They will never recover from the trauma they are
undergoing now. They
will never be able to recover from it, be able to become
complete human beings.
IS “HILA”, ONE
OF THE LAWS OF ISLAMI SHARIA, UNDISPUTED BY ALL THE SECTS.
They kill each other even in the mosques for being Shia/Sunni/Ahmadi,
but all of them are quite univocal about the cruel devastating
effect of some Islami rules/laws/regulations on your life. They
don’t realise how precious your life is. They fail to respect
your incredibly complicated systems of body and mind which
nature developed through its incredible effort and craftsmanship
of millions of years with utmost love and care.
cannot save you, dear sister! I can only scream, and that is
exactly what I am doing. We want Pakistan to apologize to us for
the genocide on us in 1971. In different countries conscience
people apologized for the crimes their ancestors did to others
before centuries. For sure one day you will stand strong against
this immense suffering for no fault of yours. You will say, if
any religious system tortures innocent wo/mankind, it surely is
some devil in disguise of religion.
Nobody has the slightest right to molest your dignity as
a human being, if you are innocent. And you know that you are
Before that happens,
today with ocean of tears I deeply apologize to you for the
torture we did on you for centuries. I cannot do that on behalf
of all men because I am not authorized to do so.
But a day will come when all the men of Islam will
realise your pain and will sincerely apologize to you, my dear
fatemolla IS NOT THE WRITER OF THIS ARTICLE.
MILLIONS OF DEVASTATED SISTERS WROTE IT IN HIS HEART WITH
THEIR IMMENSE CRIES OF PAIN. IF IT IS WRITTEN YOUR HEART TOO,
PLEASE PROPAGATE IT
IN ANY /WITHOUT NAME.